Comment by imtringued
10 days ago
There is actually a crisis of messed up kids and young adults and access to porn is related to it, but in the opposite way. The thing that is messing up boys and girls is anti-male puritanism that condemns male sexuality as inherently degrading and evil.
As girls grow up and become women, they become disinterested in men, due to the perceived danger. When boys grow up they become avoidant men who are scared of approaching and asking out women, due to the perceived risk of ridicule, shaming and legal action. This prevents the formation of stable marriages, which then culminates in low birth rates.
True, consensuality is difficult to ensure if you're not good at reading the signs. Especially with autism. It is deeply important though. I frequent sexually tinted parties and we have security, safe zones and coloured armbands (though these don't replace explicit consent, just an interest to be asked for it in the first place).
I don't think it's specially a male issue to worry about this because some of my female friends mention being worried about this too. But because of the role models still prevalent even in progressive communities they don't have to do the approaching so much so it's less of a problem for them.
I also think this is a very specific autism/adhd thing. I see this mostly in neurodivergent friends. And avoidant attachment is more of an upbringing thing (physically or emotionally absent partners). It doesn't really have anything to do with porn.
I don't care about stable marriages or birth rates though. I'm happy to be polyamorous. A lot happier than before I knew it existed. Having a traditional family would be a prison for me and I've always felt that way. The religious community in particular advocates this as the only moral way but it isn't. In fact my poly friends are much nicer and considerate people than my religious friends.
The human population is way too big anyway. If we had half or a third of the population we'd have far less problems. Environmental pollution, housing, fighting over scarce resources leading to wars. I'm proud not contributing to this by not having kids.