Comment by majormajor

> It's amazing this is an acceptable thing to say in polite society

It's amazing the sorts of things men will say to women regularly with frequently no repercussions. Not everyone who's creepy or makes threats ends up raping or murdering a woman, but of the men who DO murder women, you'll see a ton of creepy/threatening past behavior.

It becomes "desperate times, desperate measures."

It's hard, of course, for other men to police other men directly because the creeps are usually smart enough to not say it in front of other men.

So you get to a situation where a lot of us men have:

1) heard men talk amongst themselves when women aren't around after-the-fact about creepy-ass-things they've done

2) heard women talk about men doing creepy-ass things when other men aren't around

so updating your priors to favor "lean towards believing a claim by a woman over a denial by a man" is entirely reasonable until someone can show that false accusations are a big chunk of the accusations. You hear a lot about false accusations on certain parts of the internet; I have seen very few accusations at all in real life and sadly none of them have been false - they've all been the "creep wasn't even smart enough to avoid witnesses" type.

And there's just not a lot of women raping or murdering men happening - some significant physical differences, to start with - soooooo it doesn't seem like something we can be sex-blind about.