Comment by RangerScience
19 hours ago
I've seen four "in person", one very public (just purely IRL public).
I didn't see anyone (with one exception) pick sides immediately; although most people's "picked" side was "not involved". (The one exception was a community organizer who definitely has Been Through This Before).
For three of those, I did my own homework - a lot of asking around, and then a lot of conversations with both people. In the end, most of that didn't matter: the accused ended up damning themselves (or not!) pretty immediately when I talked to them about it.
> I didn't see anyone (with one exception) pick sides immediately
> the accused ended up damning themselves (or not!) pretty immediately when I talked to them about it
So you mean yourself being the exception?
Haha. No. I spent hours before hand talking with involved other people, and then I spent hours talking with these people, and then hours more processing the conversations (on my own and with advisors).
It’s just that in the end, it turned out that the things that decided it one way or the other had come up pretty early in the conversations with the accused.