Comment by Jensson
10 hours ago
Inviting a person for sex is not harassment unless you keep doing it to a person who told you no, or its done from a position of power, but "elevatorgate" was neither of those.
Women who don't want that sex of course will tell you to stop, but other women who do want that sex will tell you to do it more and that men are too reserved. Men can't read minds so women will just keep having to say no.
Again, "elevatorgate" wasn't anything! A woman discussed one particular elevator proposition that she didn't appreciate. She didn't name and shame the guy who did it, she didn't say that people who do such things ought to be cancelled; she just said that she, personally, thinks it would be nice if guys didn't do it. The original source of the controversy was Internet commentators who were outraged at the idea that there might be a tradeoff between maximizing romantic overtures towards people who might be interested and maximizing your reputation among people who aren't interested.
(Many of those commentators then went on to exaggerate or outright lie about what the original story was, and I wonder whether it wasn't one of those distorted versions you heard, since you seem to agree that it's reasonable for someone to decide they personally don't like this kind of thing.)