Comment by conductr
9 hours ago
I see no need to sugar coat it when it's my reality and there's no labor disputes. If you want to be outraged by what works in my relationship have at it, meanwhile we'll continue our 20 years and counting... but if it makes you feel better, I fully realize it's self-deprecating and I'm basically a Homer Simpson of an oaf. I'd invite you to consider that some women/wives actually enjoy traditional home-making and more traditional roles which we have followed as it comes natural to us based our similar values. While you're at it, you should consider that I have a pretty high stress job and she doesn't. I also make about 8x what she makes and while she chooses to work, she's the one with the bandwidth for maintaining the house/kid's schedule. Need I continue?
I think @mock-possum was responding negatively to the tone of your post, not the content of it. The division of labor within your relationship is nobody's business but your own. If it works for you and your partner, nobody has a right to question it. However, when you say this:
> At work, I use my calendar. At home, I have a wife.
Then you're talking about your partner as if they were an appliance of piece of software rather than a person. You're objectifying them, even if in jest. This is the sort of language that makes many people feel unwelcome on HN.
To be clear, I don't believe you meant for your remark to be malicious! I just wanted to point out why it might make some people feel like outsiders in this community.