You don't think it's obnoxious to aggressively put words in people's mouths and becoming even more aggressive and accusatory when getting some gentle "that's not what I said" pushback on that? Practically no one has an interaction like that and walks away with a positive experience. You can say "your comment would have been better without that remark, don't respond to a bad comment by making a bad comment". Okay, fine. I wouldn't even have responded. But it's really not the "obnoxious to the highest degree"-remark that's the core problem here, it's the "obnoxious to the highest degree"-behaviour. This is exactly how good (non-obnoxious) people stop coming back.
I'm not namecalling anyone Dan, I said their behaviour is bad. Which it is for any reasonable standard.
"You're being obnoxious to the highest degree" counts as name-calling in the sense that we use that term here. This is not a borderline call!
You don't think it's obnoxious to aggressively put words in people's mouths and becoming even more aggressive and accusatory when getting some gentle "that's not what I said" pushback on that? Practically no one has an interaction like that and walks away with a positive experience. You can say "your comment would have been better without that remark, don't respond to a bad comment by making a bad comment". Okay, fine. I wouldn't even have responded. But it's really not the "obnoxious to the highest degree"-remark that's the core problem here, it's the "obnoxious to the highest degree"-behaviour. This is exactly how good (non-obnoxious) people stop coming back.
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