Comment by dv_dt

One thing I'd mention is consider putting aside maximizing utility as a goal. Increasing utility is sufficient, and even then, there can be times in your life to ignore utility and relax or to learn more about the world. In the long run this puts yourself in a position to increase utility even more, but in the moment it wont be clear if it will lead anywhere and its beneficial to allow that space. I find that people (myself included) get blinded to the possibilities if they're overly focused on an optimizing mindset