Comment by PaulHoule

I greatly enjoyed

https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/rainbow-trap-9781350429680/

which talks about the harm that labels do to people with variant sexual and identity and makes the case that "transgender-cisgender" is itself a binary that divides and obscures the truth. Similarly, "non-binary" creates a binary. 20 years ago you have have an alternative gender expression and maybe have some challenges but today it may be harder rather than easier because people are polarized about it.