These words are unfortunately loaded. "instrumentalizing" is so close to "instrument" for me to see them as unrelated in meaning. But lots of similar words drift in meaning, or have several interpretations.
I don't have any issue with people doing things for "natural" reasons, vs. realpolitik analytical reasons, when the motive is still benefit-neutral, or benefit-benefit relative to ourselves-others.
Excellent point, especially since most people “aiming to come across as authentic” are anything but.
Being authentic, is about understanding oneself, and being able to communicate oneself better to others so they can understand you better too.
When we win, by being a better collaborator with others, it isn't operating in a shallow or selfish sense.
It isn't treating others like instruments for our benefit over theirs. It isn't manipulation.
We are mincing words.
I don’t think collaboration, altruism, and other pro social traits are exclusive of instrumentalizing.
Whatever word you want to use that encompasses pro social behaviors, let’s use that word if you don’t like instrumentalizing.
> We are mincing words.
Good point.
These words are unfortunately loaded. "instrumentalizing" is so close to "instrument" for me to see them as unrelated in meaning. But lots of similar words drift in meaning, or have several interpretations.
I don't have any issue with people doing things for "natural" reasons, vs. realpolitik analytical reasons, when the motive is still benefit-neutral, or benefit-benefit relative to ourselves-others.