Comment by close04
2 days ago
> we were told to be vulnerable and open, and then when men said we’re lonely got accused of asking other people to fix our problems
The discrimination pendulum swinged the other way. And as with a lot of discrimination, the criticism is in reality aimed at what you are, not what you do. So you will never get it right in the eyes of those critics. On the other hand the roles of men in society are changing and it's not at all clear "to what". "Be a man but don't really be one, it's complicated".
Well we have data showing that people have fewer close friends, men in particular, than in decades past. This used to be what the loneliness epidemic referred to, but somehow it got turned in to being about dating.
I mean, I’m lonely and I’m married. Middle age is a tough time for friendships.