Comment by PaulRobinson

I have been told this. I know men who have been told this. It doesn't help when you have low self-esteem.

Confidence is sexy. Smiling faces are more attractive. That does not mean you have a right to say that to somebody as if they "owe you" sexiness or attractiveness. Negging somebody who is feeling crap about themselves is not going to make them want to be with you.