Comment by try_the_bass
5 days ago
> You have it or you don't.
To quote the Gorillaz:
> That's a fallacy
Self-control is not a "have it or don't" thing. It can be developed and exercised, often simply by trying and failing, and then trying again (like any exercise!).
I'm not saying it's not harder for some people than others. I'm also not saying that it isn't harder to exercise on some circumstances than others. However, it's absolutely not a binary thing, and it is achievable, in some form, for anyone.
It's also about building systems to help with self control. Turning alerts off would be one. Leaving the phone in another room for longer periods of time is another.