Comment by 85392_school
2 days ago
Why would he be helped if he truly doesn't give? He speaks about this a little:
the person being aided can reciprocate with degrees of humility, dependency, gratitude, surprise, trust, delight, relief, and amusement
which, at the time, was genuinely valuable [0].
[0] Discussed more at https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46555688
Do you donate to a charity expecting reciprocity?
This comment leaves me confused as to what you believe. Do you believe a man biking across the country "takes and does not give" in a different way from a charity, or was "someone who takes and does not give" simply not meant in a bad way?
You left off this part:
> It takes some practice to enable this exchange when you don’t feel desperate.
Which to me means that he had to fake the reciprocity.