← Back to context

Comment by derrida

6 hours ago

Shame is a good thing it shows one has a conscience and positive self regard.

Just like pain is a good thing, it tells you and signals to remove your hand from the stove.

I've been saying for a couple years now that we need a healthy revitalization of shame in society. Sure in the past (and present) shaming people has been done for bad reasons but shame itself serves an important social function and I feel like there has been a collapse in its effectiveness, which has been very bad for society. People should be made to feel ashamed for certain things they do. It should impact them deeply and it should linger with them and be reinforced by others around them until they successfully make behavior changes. For example I see people lie pretty shamelessly and they suffer no lasting consequences for it. They should be stained with shame until they alter their behavior. People should not let them move past it and move on to the next lie.

Yeah but its not helpful if its the new air fryer thats burning the hand not the stove, unless you adapt.