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Comment by gljiva

23 days ago

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> Since they smoke on the balcony, rather than near roommates/family, many are likely more mindful and pleasant to coexist with than what you displayed.

They’re more pleasant to coexist with because they let their smoke drift into my home instead of their own? What? They’re just externalizing the negatives of their own vice.

  • You haven't mentioned that they:

    a) are aware that their smoke isn't dispersed enough by the breeze / open space to be unnoticeable.

    b) know there is someone close enough who isn't like them and other smokers, and is really bothered by the smoke.

    They do, however, go smoke on their balconies since they were made aware smoking inside is bad for their roommates/family.

    So, many of them are more likely than not reasonable people. They _could be_. While you _proved_ that you aren't, by not communicating it (or at least not mentioning it as if it isn't the most important reason why they are "awful people"), just judging them and holding a grudge.

    In this very comment you again showed that you don't care enough to understand others who you might disagree with, because I am just rephrasing what I already wrote, since you replied like I didn't.

> you just declare them awful people just because smoking is part of their lives

They're awful people because they are drug addicts who insist on making their unbearable smoke part of our lives too.

I didn't "choose" to live in a multi-unit apartment, I live in Hong Kong - there is no other option.

"Just leave them!" Yeah. Ok.

Try empathy, it's free.

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    • "Just leave then"

      Fine, I'll take the bait.

      I moved here by choice, my "ancestors" have nothing to do with Hong Kong.

      I also don't wage a war against my neighbours who are simply trying to "enjoy a smoke".

      I still don't appreciate when my house smells of cannabis when I leave the window open and don't turn on the fans I have in the balcony.

      My neighbours could turn on a fan to dissipate the smoke, they don't it's inconsiderate, but I'm not going to ruin their day over it.

      Moving over this, does not make any sense, the whole argument of "If you don't like it then leave" reeks of ignorant entitlement.

      YOU are part of the problem, not part of the solution.

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