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Comment by closewith

8 hours ago

Involving yourself by commenting on very personal matters, especially in a smug or condescending manner, is almost guaranteed to end badly.

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beaker52  8 hours ago

Losing one’s temper leads things to end badly.

  • closewith  7 hours ago

    Losing your temper when a serious boundary has been crossed is natural and expected. It had a positive outcome in that it stopped your bad behaviour immediately.

    > He ended up grabbing me by the throat, while no-one around did a thing to stop him.

    The bystander effect is real, but you should also take this opportunity for self-reflection, because in this case, you were the person behaving badly who instigated the situation.

    > But I doubt I’ll learn anything from it

    Yes, unfortunately it seems unlikely you will.

    • beaker52  5 hours ago

      Serious boundary? He put tits in front of my eyes. Am I supposed to remember to keep my eyes pinned to the floor when out in public? What a terrible way you must live.

      I’m afraid to say, that if you want a boundary, go home. Otherwise, accept that you’re in public, and people can and will speak to you.

      Also, you’ve just justified being violent in response to someone making sounds with their mouth. I bet you’re a calm person to be around, when everyone does what you want.