Comment by magicalhippo

> Except of course that you do have a list of gays.

If you go to your kindergarten and tell them to stop keeping a list of gays they will look at you weird and most likely dismiss you as a nutjob. Because they don't have a list of gays, they just have a list of kids with their parents' names and pronouns.

That's why I think it's important to keep the distinction rather than conflate the two like you want to.