Comment by duskdozer
16 hours ago
It's not "getting to know you" in that sense, it's getting to know the public face you present, whether I can trust you, and how I can interact with you most smoothly. If you're my coworker and you don't ever want to talk about your family or friends or personal interests or problems or anything, that's fine.
> getting to know the public face you present
That's exactly what I'm saying!
And by what means am I permitted, your majesty, to construct this face? May I read books to paraphrase? May I quote authors? May I practice at Toastmasters™? Maybe practice with my paychotherapist, or with my speech therapist?
You don't know, and you don't get to know. My interiority is my own.
There is no "the real me."