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Comment by embedding-shape

13 hours ago

> Honestly, it seems you are grumpy, so it was probably a good idea to extend that vacation. Being rude just creates a more toxic environment for everyone. Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer? Thanks

Honestly, it seems like both of you were feeling a bit "grumpy" at the moment, but sending passive aggressiveness towards the maintainer you are trying to get to merge your code (or not your code, someone else's code?) seems like a very bold strategy regardless.

You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

But that doesn't negate the maintainer talking to people like that (and taking contributions without attribution).. and the net result is I don't want to use the software, and frankly they probably won't miss me.. so the end result is neutral.. I just find it sad.

  • > Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer?

    Quite sure most (perhaps >99%) adult people would consider this passive aggressive.

    But yeah, I agree with you for the rest part. Why did Mario assume that bot is you...?

    • if a human showed up directly under some bot bullshit pinging me I'd assume they were the bot operator as well

  • > You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

    That's a great opportunity for self reflection.

    • Yeah, I take that. I've thought about it much of this evening.

      I think at the time I was frustrated, it felt unfair and I couldn't understand it.

      Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

      But that is where I should have stopped. The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive. I am owning that.