Comment by Noaidi
1 hour ago
I cannot dance anymore so I am useless. I am dead.
Those beliefs are the problem, not her ALS.
Creating attachments leads to this suffering. Do not be surprised if you suffer when they are taken away. Acceptance is the answer, not these fake and silly tech toys. Because guess what? She is still not dancing.
Creating attachments is also human, and shapes your sense of identity. In turn, your identity and sense of belonging makes you relate to other people and creates bonding, which we need as social animals.
Your stoic approach is valuable, but it’s a different mindset from most people and not something innate to humans.
So yes, her “beliefs” exacerbate the problem, but they are also entirely normal beliefs to have
> Your stoic approach is valuable, but it’s a different mindset from most people and not something innate to humans.
It is not an approach, it is an understanding. And it is not Stoicism, it is Buddhism.
>So yes, her “beliefs” exacerbate the problem, but they are also entirely normal beliefs to have
Just because they are normal beliefs, it does not make them healthy.
Understanding how suffering arises helps us when we lose our attachments. I am in no way saying do not from attachments, but to understand the suffering that is created when you form them.