Comment by tuyiown

Those people generally are not eager for feedback especially if it's even remotely perceived as negative or some kind of gatekeeping.

The only way to avoid getting furious about this is to deeply understand that you can't require people to be properly self-aware, especially because many many people that checks the expert boxes are very incompetent or inadequate, so they when the come up with their half bake ideas, they delegate the other to deliver contrarian proofs. It's exhausting.