Comment by HumblyTossed
4 hours ago
Reading the above, how much empathy does someone need to give before they can feel the other party has bad intentions?
"No" needs to mean something.
4 hours ago
Reading the above, how much empathy does someone need to give before they can feel the other party has bad intentions?
"No" needs to mean something.
It’s not either-or. You can tell people No and be empathetic to their reasons at the same time. Understanding doesn’t mean agreement or acceptance. It also doesn’t mean you excuse their behavior, or allow it to continue. Empathy doesn’t mean you like what they’re doing. That would be sympathy.
In fact, understanding makes it easier to get people to do what you want.
Some argue that it is even a precondition, to meet someone where they are, to get them to change their ways. The other remaining option is violence/force, which will not fundamentally change their behavior but only shift the problematic behavior elsewhere (and often make it worse).