Comment by akudha
3 days ago
Isn’t this a universal problem though, not just software industry? Even at home, if one kid just does his thing quietly but another kid is difficult, what do we say? “John has his problems but he is trying, we gotta encourage him”. While his brother gets no praise or attention for just doing his thing quietly without fuss.
When things run smoothly, very few people notice. When things break, everyone notices
I thought that was where the phrasing:
"John! Why can't you be more like your brother?!"
comes from.
when you do things right, people won’t be sure you’ve done anything at all.
As a middle child this rings true for me.