Comment by hinkley

Bike shedding means no decision of consequence is made. People wanted to participate in something, and they sucked all of the oxygen out of the room for other decisions.

It's that important decisions were either not made or got insufficient scrutiny that's the problem. So aggressively shutting down bike shedding that is actually bike shedding by picking a solution and moving on or tabling the discussion to let a team of 2 solve it offline is what you're after.

Sometimes though, bike shedding can be a delay tactic. We have a decision we are not ready to make that someone is forcing a vote on, and there's a silent conspiracy to derail the conversation to avoid the vote for one more meeting.

And then there's people learning not to be responsible for anything, either as a career choice or due to previous trauma at this business. So they are asking for too much input so any consequences are not their fault alone. As you say, being a coin flipper in such situations becomes its own soft power. I've worked at a couple places where a handful of people clearly followed my advice solely because they knew I'd say it was my fault if things went wrong. They just wanted a Decider and I sounded like one so they did things the way I wanted them done. Their motivation was to avoid having to deal with being yelled at. I did my yelling in private, instead of turning it into an opportunity for public humiliation.