Comment by josephg

> Rustations have this very bad habit (IMO) of pushing the "my language is better than yours" to an extreme

It’s funny, I’ve heard people claim this about rust developers for years. But I’ve seen very little evidence of it. Where are all these toxic comments? Look at Klabnik’s comments in this thread. He’s lovely.

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A son comes home to his poverty stricken family with a spring in his step. “Mum! Dad! All that time at community college paid off! I got a job!”. Dad immediately snaps - “so what, now you have a job, you think you’re better than us?”

What happened? Dad is unconsciously projecting a belief onto his son. Something like “unemployed people are shameful”. Then dad feels judged by the projected belief and he attacks the son for it. But it wasn’t the son’s belief in the first place. He just wanted his parents to be proud.

How does the son respond? It’s a tricky one. If the son defends himself by talking up how great it is to have a job, he reinforces the projection and dad will get more angry. If he says “there’s nothing to be proud of for having a job” then he’s lying about his values. It’s a trap.

When I’m feeling uncharitable, I project this same dynamic onto rust and C/C++ devs. “Mom! Dad! I figured out a way to get memory safety without sacrificing native execution and performance!” C: “So you think your language is better than ours? Why are you so toxic about it?”

I’m not really sure how to respond to comments like yours. I think you’re mad at ghosts.