Comment by VirusNewbie
1 month ago
One might also argue this is more mainstream in some cultures, and it's just not talked about. In countries such as Japan or France it's not uncommon to have a mistress (or male equivalent) but also having a primary family. That's hierarchical polyamory with uh, less steps.
I think there's a bit of a difference between having a mistress and hosting an implied consent gangbang party for dozens of people.
lol I certainly think so and thankfully my wife agrees with me there.
I was just pointing out that there's a bit more than meets the eye when it coems to the spectrum of monogamy.
Yes, we know that monogamous societies are always imperfect, as people are imperfect, and it's common to violate the norms to some measure. But there's a difference between occasional violation of the norm and complete blatant rejection of it. As the joke goes, "yes, some pee in the pool, but you're doing it from the diving board!".
certainly less calendaring and meeting invites, I'm sure. I did meet a couple of people who identified as non-monogamous well after I had met my very monogamous partner (whom I love deeply and am happily monogamous for) who seemed very cool and were equally put off by the polyamorists they had interacted with. but they were truly diamonds in the rough, at least in my major metropolitan city, and not a single one of them was hetero or close to being a WASP so you're probably right about the cultural tidbit