Comment by pfannkuchen

> Part of pubescence is incrementally transferring your reliance on your parents to reliance on your peers.

Is it? That’s a theory, but for the vast majority of human history there was a very different pattern and I don’t think we’ve changed enough since then evolution-wise to have instincts for a completely different life pattern.

Like, in hunter gatherer bands, there aren’t really “parents” in the modern sense through a child’s development. And then they don’t start relying on their peers, they’ve been with a mixed age group of siblings and cousins since the age of 3 or so. And then they slowly transition into being a member of the adult male or female group.

I don’t really know how what you’re describing would map into instincts from that ancestral life pattern.