Comment by jplusequalt

>Maybe it is NBD - the concept of deriving your meaning and purpose from "what you do" instead of "who you are"

I spend 40 hours a week at my job. I have spent thousands of hours learning about programming, software engineering, and the domain knowledge for the niche that I work in.

In this time I have surely spent more of my waking time within the confines of an office building than I have with my wife and family.

You'll need to forgive me then if I let such a large part of my life bleed over into my identity.