Comment by lurking_swe

Well, it's not strictly about baby, but in general there's lots to keep track of.

my spouse had a vaginal delivery and had some tearing. So she goes to pelvic floor therapy for that. Once a week. She's also a breastfeeding mom and has a lactation consultant that comes to the house a few times a month. As the father i need to make sure someone (or I) can watch baby during those appointments.

then of course, for baby, there is the occasional pediatrician appointment. my kid needed some physical therapy due to a neck issue (always leaned head toward one side). The physical therapist was amazing with that, but during that process we discovered that he had a very weak core, and so we continued physical therapy for a couple months afterwards as well. so that's about 4 to 5 appointments a week just for baby.

Then there are regular appointments you also need as a functioning adult… Dental cleaning, PCP appointment, etc.

then, while all of this is happening, you are somehow trying to schedule a tour with various daycares (via email usually) so that your child has some place to go if you eventually need daycare. and all of this is happening while one of you is probably trying to work a 9 to 5 job.

so in summary, maybe I'm crazy, but that's a lot of shit to deal with when you also have to deal with poor sleep and learning how to be a parent at the same time. I'm burnt the hell out and i have an "easy" baby. Heaven help you if you have a difficult kid.