Comment by DoreenMichele

After I declined to publicly answer his overly personal inquiry, pushcx messaged me the following:

Hey Doreen,

After chatting with you about the text on the invite page I’m curious, what brought you to Lobsters? I can’t imagine it being especially interesting to people who aren’t developers or sysadmins. Why did you want to sign up and participate, what does Lobsters have that’s interesting to you?

It is, of course, extremely superficially polite. Except he asked me a question publicly. I declined to answer his personal question publicly. So he publicly stated that I was welcome to message him privately about it. I said no thanks, I'm good and then he messaged me privately.

So, in, other words, it wasn't an invitation. I wasn't allowed to decline to discuss it with him. I was actually required to answer his invasive questions.

Conversation he's referencing is here:

https://lobste.rs/s/sfzmwr/proposal_set_everyone_s_invite_co...

I don't intend to discuss this further with you.

But, in short, social issues are people problems and tech is merely a tool. Tech doesn't per se solve social problems. That's not actually how that works.

(In case it actually needs to be said, my handle over there is Doreen.)