Comment by brlewis
6 years ago
"Why wouldn't sshd do the job here?" Take "you" out of it. The question is about the problem and the solution, not the person.
6 years ago
"Why wouldn't sshd do the job here?" Take "you" out of it. The question is about the problem and the solution, not the person.
A slight twist to this approach:
"What if we tried using sshd here?"
I think this would make it sound like you are on their side/on the same team, and that you are trying to help, not trying to mock them.
There's two parts to the problem. You don't want to sound mocking, but you also don't want to come across as a doofus who thinks their ten seconds of thought is automatically insightful, even as you're the twentieth person to suggest turning if off and on again.
When someone has been working on something for a week or more, a naive "What if we tried using sshd here?" fails that latter test pretty hard.
Perhaps.
But if I'm the proverbial twentieth person to ask the same question, it's probably a hint that it should be documented/explained prominently - maybe in a README, maybe as a comment in the source code, maybe some other suitable place.
And maybe it's just me. I'm a team lead and I have constant impostor syndrome. I was airborne into an existing team of junior devs who had no real team lead, but some of the devs know their stuff better than I do. E.g. I don't know modern ES, TypeScript, or React. I can't write CSS for the life of me. I'm mostly a back end Python/Django geek/Linux graybeard. I have since learned to not be afraid to sound like a doofus. I just ask away when I'm reviewing code and I don't understand something in modern ES/TypeScript/JSX/TSX/etc.
Like, if you are generally a nice guy, people you work with will eventually (and rather quickly) figure out that's just how you ask questions and don't mean any mockery.
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Right - almost all of the examples from the website use “you.”
"How about sshd?"
"Have you tried sshd?"
This is just magical thinking - saying the right incantation is going to make everything ok. It doesn't work that way. This is all about the worship of weakness, a peculiarly American kind of power play where the goal isn't to gain any power, but to avoid any kind of value judgment at all.