Comment by tylerjwilk00
6 years ago
I disagree with the article premise.
If I say, "Why don't you just X?"
It's short hand for:
- This is the first solution I thought of
- I am sure you already tried this
- Since you probably already tried it, why didn't it work?
It's about learning. I don't think most people are so fragile and insecure that you can't ask them about their problem space.
That's your (and my) shorthand for those meanings, and my intention in the conversation, but based on a large sample over the years, that isn't how a large percentage of people interpret it.
If 0.1% of people interpret a statement in a way that I didn't mean, it's probably their fault. If 40% do, then that's my fault.