Comment by icebraining

6 years ago

> I would feel offended if anyone would feel the need to go easy on me

"go easy on me" means "condescend", so you're essentially doing the same as the people mentioned: feeling offended because they perceive condescension from the speaker.

> Do I look like such a weak person to you that you feel like you have to handle my self esteem with silk gloves?

> Making things up in your head

The phrase he came up with doesn't actually state that he is treating you with silk gloves; that's an implication you're deriving (in your head), just like those people are deriving another implication from the original phrase.

I thought his first paragraph was just being illustrative. Like look how crazy this gets.

I suppose now I'm deriving meaning in my head.

  • It's not illustrative, it's how I would feel. Maybe it's a cultural thing. Something to take into account if I would ever work in the US. It would be nice to have some kind of rule book then, I mean if people don't just assume I mean well but get mad when I use the wrong wording means I would have to be educated very well to function in such a group. I imagine such a culture is pretty unwelcoming to other cultures.