Comment by Sean1708

> And honestly I think phrasing isn't that important - if you know someone for months or years and aren't usually a dick - people won't automatically assume the worst.

I'm actually quite surprised that you're the first person I've seen mention this, because in my personal experience this is exactly the answer. People seem to receive that question well regardless of it's form when it comes from someone that is known to be relatively open and non-judgemental.