Comment by GavinMcG
4 years ago
> because someone makes an advance towards you, instead of feeling flattered and politely declining
Convenient to leave out the rape in the next sentence, and the other rape in the next paragraph:
> I felt being taken advantage of that he had unprotected sex with me when I was intoxicated. Nothing felt right. I remember panicking and crying.
> There was another time that he insisted on having intercourse regardless of me saying I didn’t want to.
Sorry you don't like to think about that.
She talks like a doll lacking any kind of autonomy. It is not "we had sex", but "he had sex with me".
I don't know any woman who does not want to have unprotected sex, but just let it happen like that. Then come back for seconds, even though she is not in the mood.
Are there naive young women who lack self-authority and self-esteem to say no, to an older man who needs those women to get their fix and wants to make up for their unpopular youth? Yes. And that awkward dance of nature takes two to tango. Panicking and crying during or after sex does not a "rape" make (but the definition depends on jurisdiction anyway, and we haven't even let a court in the right jurisdiction look if it qualifies, so I'd like to avoid that term).
Unless you want to claim openly that a named person is now a serial rapist. I'd like to think it takes more than a Medium post for you to do that.
> regardless of me saying I didn’t want to
Why are you making up this story that she couldn't say no? She says she said no.
> Want to hook up again later? > I am not in the mood right now, no. > Are you sure?
What happened after? Rape with her shutting down as a robot? Maybe she even cried during the sex, but he just would not stop? I am getting all these crazy unsavory visions, that could have been stopped had she poked her attacker's eye or broke his pinky finger or went to the police the next morning or something.
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