Comment by swatcoder

> prompt someone to ask you that question back

Huh. I’m glad this is not a thing in my circles. Being direct and exposing some vulnerability seems to work great for us.

I known its just a custom that can’t be analyzed too deeply, but what you describe sounds so timid and shy from the outside.

Rightly or wrongly (probably wrongly), if I picked up that someone was doing this, I’d assume they need a lot of special handling and ceremony to feel comfortable. It would take a lot for me to want to bother.