Comment by christalwang

I was saving this one to answer, because it's really personal for me!

For each person it'll be different. But in short, these are the stories you tell yourself, about yourself.

For example: when I was a kid I was always put in this "special" desk that faced the back wall, or the other "special" desk that was pushed up against the blackboard next to the teacher. I was always "other"'d and kept away from others. I started growing this idea that I was just a "bad kid", that I needed to be removed or separated from others. That nobody wanted to hear what I had to say. That I was a "bad apple". This really demotivated to try at all in school, and the only place I felt confident was in Physical Education class where I was allowed to be loud and move around without being yelled at. Over time, as I learned about ADHD, I wasn't a bad kid... and that sports wasn't even really my thing (lol). With this new "fact", I was able to separate some of my behaviors and tendancies from me as a person.

That was just 1 little example. I have tons... but I hope that made a little bit of sense!