Comment by tracerbulletx

People actually DO feel annoyed when people ask them for unreasonable things. So it's not unreasonable at all to take that into consideration and predict if a question will put them out. People are tuned to favor one strategy over another, but there is a real social cost to asking, and a real cost to not asking. There is no one right strategy, just another optimization problem that our brains have solved with emotional weights. Also the people who ask for things get offended all the time when people say no, so that's a problem too.