Comment by themodelplumber

That's a great example. Unfortunately it's also not super helpful to dichotomize the difference, because most people are a mix of both in different ways.

For example, under extreme stress or illness, a lot of "ask" people will turn into "guess what I want or life hates me" people.

And it's not exactly unheard of for guessers to turn into power-trippers under stress and become over-direct when just a little bit of directness is a better idea.

Sometimes guessers even use this entire us-them concept as a way to subtly preach to askers, but really it's a two-way street. If you've ever lived or worked under an unethical or abusive guesser, you may have developed a very strong sense of the hypocrisy of the "askers are blunt and mean" comparison which often comes out in discussions with guessers.

Fortunately though there is a lot of nuance to work with on both sides in most cases. (And again, dichotomizing this is not great in so many ways)