Comment by rendx

I really hope this doesn't come across as an attack against you or your environment because I don't mean it that way: My fairly recent understanding is that "shaming and criticizing" is something that can hurt or even traumatize you only when your caregivers didn't show you how to maintain healthy boundaries and regulate your own emotions (mostly by living it) - a.k.a. "self worth". I have learned this the hard way, and it sounds like you too.