Comment by sparrowInHand
1 year ago
I think your focus on kaligraphy is damaging to the lesson. You should pick something your son values, and teach him to drive it to perfection. Then watch him getting annoyed when you half-ass it in front of him.
All education is a crude attempt at telepathy and while repeated confrontation can transport the value you place upon a thing, it does not make it intrinsic. Also skills are filtered for right to exist every generation. Skills become value less is a normal and even healthy thing.
it's a child. By definition it doesn't know what it values. This has seemingly been forgotten but parents have a mentorship and guiding role. Their job is to cultivate in their children interest in activities in the first place. When I was young I hated that my parents made me learn an instrument, because I wanted to play video games and eat ice cream all day. As an adult (who became a part time musician) I understand the value of it.
"do what your son wants' gets you children raised on an ipad with no education in the arts.
When I was young I hated that my parents made me learn an instrument. As an adult I still hate that they did that, there is no value in it for me. There are parents that pursue their own interests through their kids (who often can't resist), I find that objectionable.
It also destroys the ability to be intrinsic passionate and feel like you have control over your own life and actions. Its a horrible way to create people that are ideal sustinance for the societal apparatus, but bad when it comes to act in there own self-interest. Which is why you want to work with whatever fascinates the little person. The world is filled with no backbone- will broken, sub-servient peasants already.