Comment by toss1

This article is spot-on. It is different for everyone, but this arc was remarkably similar to losing my mother just over 20 years ago, also too early and to a short-ish final bout with cancer. Although one of the sharp shards hadn't turned up for quite a while now, ouch! there's another one, right here and now; they almost always keep showing up where I least expect them.

Joshua Thomas is definitely onto a better description of the process here. Thx jyunwai for posting it; it increases understanding.