Comment by whamlastxmas
1 year ago
My adhd was helped a lot by:
Reading about adhd to understand how it impacts your brain and life
Reading about coping mechanisms and actually doing them
Things everyone hears and never does but it absolutely helps: good diet, exercise, meditation
Work on any other mental health issues you have
Therapy
Lots of trial and error of management methods to see what works
Learning to be kind to myself
Stopping “I should” statements.
Realizing that if something was actually that important to me, I would work on it. If I don’t finish a side project it means it probably isn’t that important and that’s okay
And medication, which alone is at least 30% of the improvement
Thanks. I guess eventually I need to be at peace with myself, which I cannot do that. TBH I loathe myself. I can lie to others but I cannot lie to myself. I guess therapy is probably my best resort.
I really disliked myself for most of my life and even now struggle with it. The thing that helped me a lot was learning to be unconditionally kind to others both in my thoughts and actions. Once that was normalized it was easy to apply the same thought process to myself.
Thanks. I'm fine with other people. I know most people are simply controlled by fate and randomness so it's pointless to blame anyone for anything. I don't know how to make peace with myself though even though I agree it's the same story for myself.