Comment by qskousen
5 days ago
I realize I'm probably in the minority for this, but for me when people create a "persona" for their media, it turns me away. I prefer watching people who are more genuine, whose content is less entertainment and more just themselves, even if that isn't what the internet seems to be looking for.
The people you consider "more genuine" are just cultivating a different persona.
Don't ever believe you "know" someone you don't. Parasocial relationships are harmless at the low level but quickly become toxic.
Always meet your heros so you can understand they are normal and flawed humans
I think it's even more complex than that. There's only one human I can understand pretty thoroughly, inside and out, and that's me -- and even then, there are a lot of limitations!
We cannot know all the thoughts and experiences of another human being. Even when that person is 100% genuine, there will be aspects to that person that will surprise you!
And that doesn't even get into the weeds of autistics, ADHDers, and intelligent people (I happen to be all three) -- who learn from an early age they have to pretend to be something they aren't, otherwise they'll face intense bullying and ostracision. And even then, there's going to be something "off" about them ....
I find it somewhere between "very uncomfortable" and "creepy". Even as a kid something felt very off in those interviews.