Comment by moqizhengz
4 days ago
> Let's say someone made a critical error in their code. Now, it would be nicer and kinder to say "Perhaps you could have done that better, it might have harmful impact on users" and you can also tell the person "This is really bad, you messed up, this type of a mistake is unacceptable and horrific" which uses lots of sharp words and feels abusive, so which is better? It makes the person feel bad for sure with the second option, but isn't that the best way to communicate just how bad what they've done is?
You could have just say "This line here will have harmful impact on users".
The point here is to use negative words on the 'OBJECT', it can be code or anyone's work, not on ppl. You donot need to make an statement on someone's intelligence to make him understand the severity of an issue.
> You could have just say "This line here will have harmful impact on users".
But I don't even care about that line, it's already caught and will be fixed. I want them to know it was their lack of care and their negligence, I want them to take personal responsibility for that and for future work they do. But I also would want such a person to know it isn't a personal attack, just a very serious area of improvement and a mistake that can't be repeated.
I suppose my point is, the receiver of the criticism should allow for negative words and personal criticism without taking it as an insult. but the phrasing should be focused on the problem with relation to the person that caused it. The moment the focus of the sentence becomes the person, that is probably inappropriate? Just thinking out loud.
> I want them to know it was their lack of care and their negligence, I want them to take personal responsibility for that and for future work they do. But I also would want such a person to know it isn't a personal attack, just a very serious area of improvement and a mistake that can't be repeated.
You are an asshole. Your lack of care and negligence in your interactions with your peers has a detrimental effect upon your team's productivity and internal communication. Please take responsibility for this failure in intra-personal skills and acknowledge the impact your lack of empathy will have on your future work. This is not personal, I am just directing your attention to an area you need to improve and where future mistakes like this should not be repeated.
I think you misunderstood me, and I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. In my opinion your response is not helpful to having a constructive discussion. Since you insulted me directly, I will not discuss the details of this topic with you.
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But you don’t know negligence is the reason. You are just assuming that you understand how the situation arose and what their internal state of mind was the led to it. But it could have ignorance, rather than “negligence”. They might not fully understand that specific code usage, in which case instruction and mentorship would be the remedy.
Second, do you have any evidence that calling someone negligent actually leads to better performance? Is that an established best practice for reducing errors or does that just satisfy your own feelings of annoyance or dissatisfaction?
Third, “this is negligent” is not constructive. Neither is "This is really bad, you messed up, this type of a mistake is unacceptable and horrific". These are not actionable nor are they specific. They are emotional. Feedback outlining (or directing them to resources) on how to do a proper code review to catch mistakes like this, is actionable and specific.
Finally, the swiss cheese method of safety is always better than the “just stop making mistakes” method. Aviation safety does not rely on pilots “just not making mistakes”. There are studies of procedures, warnings, training, etc. to reduce the likelihood of an arror and redundant systems to make errors survivable. And there are checklists, so many checklists. Have you instituted checklists for code writing and review before it comes to your level? If something is so critical, is it negligent to allow code to be written and submitted based on each persons individual, subjective idea on what is thorough and what is a negligent level of review?
You’re focusing on your side of the communication, but to be really effective in any communication you need to focus on how it will be perceived by the recipients.
If they messed up, you want to help make them better so it doesn’t happen again right? So really you want a positive outcome for everyone. You don’t have to sugar coat it tho, just share it in a way that makes it a learning moment.
You're totally right, I can agree with what you said, but adding to it: I would want the other person to understand how bad the situation is, that's all. I used the analogy (hyperbole) of misconfiguring a nuclear bomb's timer in a sibling comment.