Comment by Jensson
13 hours ago
> Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape.
You have to compare such things. A cancellation if strong enough has ruined your entire social life, all your friends and family now shuns you, that is worse than rape. Of course a "cancellation" which is just some posts online and stays online is not a big deal, but some victims of false accusations do get their entire social life destroyed. Historically rape did lead to such cancelations for the woman, she was no longer fit for marriage and was seen as used goods, so then it was worse of course, but we no longer see it that way.
They are comparable but the outcome of the comparison is not what you think it is. Even in an individual case.
And then remember that wrong cancellations are super, super rare compared to the scale of violence men commit most of which is never reported.
> we no longer see it that way.
Who is we? Many people are still religious (in UK for example more than half of people and growing) but even without that remember this is a physical assault and a major black mark on your ENTIRE life that you have to deal with even if you move abroad and not a single soul around you knows what was done to you, ruinous psychologically and causing destructive behaviors, making you intuitively scared of men. And meanwhile the biggest consequence men suffer, like this guy, is "I lost my way of making money because everyone in Scala community hates me". The number of ways to deal with it, move, change your community, change your name.... he mentions some of them himself. And for a rape victim, none of that works, it's just with you until you die.
This shit requires healing that for some never happens. And for the perp it's just inconvenient logistics (and only IF one victim is brave enough to speak)
This is an insane conversation but I will continue because again the only way to avoid innocent men from a cancel is to try to get more men to understand how this is fucked up beyond belief.