Comment by alexpotato

So I like to use this metaphor (it was originally for dating but applies here too).

Think of your body. Specifically how tall you are. You can't easily change your height. However, you can do the following:

- workout

- wear clothes that fit you and flatter your particular body type

- etc

The same applies to interviews.

e.g. if you are a quiet, introverted person then there probably isn't much you can do if you are interviewing for a job that requires an outgoing personality like sales or event planning

However, you can get better at rapport, asking questions and seeming interested and excited in the role. A lot of this is also how you respond to questions. For example, if someone asks "Tell me about X", X can be either vague or you are not sure why they are asking. If you respond with "Well, I have a couple examples of X here they are: A, B, C. Which one would you like to hear about?" then that shows you are both experienced and also good at clarifying what is being asked.

One EXCELLENT way to practice this is to reach out to friends or family members who have done a lot of interviewing and have them do a mock interview. This is useful b/c they know both:

- what hiring managers are looking for in general

- you as a person and what may be "the best side of you" vs "pretending to be something you're not"

I will also repeat what some other commenters have said:

You are interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you. Much like a marriage, you want to partner with someone that "fits" with you and vice versa. In other words,