Comment by dang

This response is right on fundamentals (more at https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45340298) as evidence that they want the same things that you (and we!) do, and base your response on that.

Nearly everyone here wants great discussions; the problem is that we all underestimate the provocations in our own comments, or even just don't see them at all. Meanwhile the provocations in other people's comments often land much harder on us as readers. Say the skew is 10x in each direction—that leads to a 100x distortion. This "100x problem" is probably at the root of most interpersonal glitches here (and not only here). Unfortunately, it seems to be a deep and universal bias.