Comment by zeroq
3 days ago
You know why audiophile grade cables takes 900h of burn in? Because that's more than 30 days of return policy.
If you go a therapy and all you get is talking to a wall while you're therapist is skimming through a phone, that's not a progress, that's a scam.
The therapist should at least be engaged in the session and actively listening - if they're just scrolling through their phone, find a different therapist.
But if you've been to 11 therapists and none worked, the problem is probably not all 11 of the therapists.
You have to be at least engaged in the session and actively introspecting too. If you're not curious about where your issues stem from and willing to try some (oftentimes difficult) approaches to dealing with them, the therapist isn't going to be either. They'll happily take your money and give you their time, but there isn't anything to work with to get better.
Some people just need a wall to talk to, to be fair.
That’s also a misrepresentation of what happened for many of us when we did therapy though. You have to want to change badly enough that you’re willing to try things. It’s not enough to have a vague sense that there’s something wrong. It has to be crystal clear to you that you need to change somehow.