Comment by techblueberry

Something I think is missing from the whole gender/sexuality definition is a spectrum of salience. Some people are like capital S straight or Capital M male, right, they get the ick from imagining kissing someone of the same gender, or they’re very into their male identity and don’t like participating in traditionally female activities.

On the other hand I think there are people (myself) who are just low salience, which may explain the rise in nonbinary identification. The older I get the older I would say I’m straight and male, but I also just don’t care, I am sometimes attracted to men, and I participate in trasditionally female activities or personality traits. I’m not tied to my maleness or my straightness.